Photo Friday

Lewis and Daddy checking out the tree house on our first rainy day at camp.

Lewis and Daddy checking out the tree house on our first rainy day at camp.

"Why would I pay attention to that book when there is a camera to look at and plot how to grab??"

“Why would I pay attention to that book when there is a camera to look at and plot how to grab??”

Woke up in his stroller after napping and decided to relax with his feet on the tray.

Woke up in his stroller after napping and decided to relax with his feet on the tray.

Ice cube hot weather play. Sucking on one ice cube, inspecting another.

Ice cube hot weather play. Sucking on one ice cube, inspecting another.

Splash! I think we need a bigger bucket.

Splash! I think we need a bigger bucket.

Wet up to his armpits. Maybe we'll wear a swimsuit next time.

Wet up to his armpits. Maybe we’ll wear a swimsuit next time.

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Mama Reads

As I mentioned in a previous post, I have recently been reading Bringing Up Bébé by Pamela Druckerman. This has been on my “to read” list for a while, and a few weeks ago I downloaded a kindle Sample of the book, which I enjoyed just as much as I expected. Although I love to read I always feel a little guilty buying new books. I already have close to 100 unread books on my kindle (most were downloaded for free or just $1-2). There is also the wonderful resource of the library where I can get books to read without spending any money on them. I looked first to see if they library had this book for the Kindle, which they didn’t. I then almost bought it, but decided instead to borrow the actual hard copy of the book one week after Lewis and I went to story time. (What a crazy idea. Reading a book in actual book form!)

I started writing this once already but stopped when it became clear that I was on the track towards writing a 20 page essay detailing all my thoughts on this book. No body wants to read that much blabbering. (Seriously. I wrote 4 longish paragraphs all about one chapter of the book. Imagine if I wrote that much about every chapter??) I’ll just say that wow – this book really struck a chord with me and got my thoughts going.

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I enjoyed this book even more than I thought I would, and actually had a hard time putting it down. I’ve been reading The Complete Collection of Jane Austen books on the kindle which is great but it is a lot at once so I needed a little break from it. I was surprised at how much Bringing Up Bébé made me really think about things and really made me analyze some of my parenting with Lewis. Especially in the section about sleep, I found myself wishing I had read this book a long time ago. In a lot of areas I found myself agreeing with the French methods and thinking “Yes! That’s exactly what I do!” and in other areas I was intrigued but felt that the French way is not for me.

There really are some big differences between the American and French attitudes towards children (at least as described by Druckerman. I don’t have any personal experience with French parenting.) Americans certainly do seem to raise “child kings” and allow their children to run the show, while French parents expect a lot more respect/patience/manners from their children. This is something I quickly realized while working with kids – if you have high expectations of children they will most likely live up to them, as long as you are consistent and respectful of them in these expectations.

I have been following Janet Lansbury’s blog for a while now, where she talks about child care and parenting from an RIE perspective. Several times throughout this book I was struck by the similarities between the French parenting and the RIE ideals. They are very similar in their respect of even young infants as full humans who deserve to be treated and spoken to as such and who can understand what is said to them. They are also both similar in their style of setting firm boundaries for the child, especially in areas of safety, but then allowing them great freedom within these boundaries. This is something I am striving for with Lewis, too. I want him to be independent and to trust his interests and instincts, so if he shows an interest in something I allow him to follow that interest provided there is no strong reason against it. This brings  to mind also the “Year of YES” attitude from Play At Home Mom.

Anyway, I could go on and on about this book and all the thoughts it has sparked for me regarding eating, sleeping, parenting, schooling, etc. This really was a great book and I would recommend it to anyone, whether you are a parent or not. There is a ton of parenting advice that can be gained from it, but it is also interesting and enjoyable just as a story of this mother’s experiences raising her children in another country.

Weekend Getaway

We are very lucky that my family owns a cabin on Lake Champlain, and we are able to spend time there throughout the summer. Since Chris had Monday off for Memorial Day we decided it was a perfect chance to go up for a long weekend and give Lewis his first lake experience. It was unfortunately cold and rainy on Saturday and Sunday. We spent most of our time indoors for those two days, although we did go out a little to show Lewis around and see what he thought of the lake.

My two cuties in their striped hoodies.

My two cuties in their striped hoodies.

Sunday my parents and one of my sisters joined us. We went out for BBQ for lunch, and then relaxed inside the cabin for the afternoon and evening and tried to will the clouds and rain to go away. Eventually by the evening the sky was  mostly clear, but it was still quite chilly out.

Monday we had much nicer weather. We did some work around the camp, gardening, adding gravel to the driveway to patch the deepest/muddiest ruts, etc. We also took some time to relax and enjoy the sunshine and of course let Lewis play around more. (He loved digging his hands into the damp gravel and picking up sandy handfuls to squish around. He actually did really well with not trying to eat any of the tiny rocks, although he did pop a whole dandelion into his mouth again.)

We took him down on shore and he enjoyed chewing on sticks and rocks. He was really interested to try to walk into the lake, but it was way too chilly. Hopefully it will be much warmer when we are back in the end of June!

We took him down on shore and he enjoyed chewing on sticks and rocks. 

He was really interested to try to walk into the lake, but it was way too chilly. Hopefully it will be much warmer when we are back in the end of June!

Lewis relaxing with Daddy, Grandma, and Auntie Anna

Lewis relaxing with Daddy, Grandma, and Auntie Anna

We spent a long time out in the lawn looking out at the lake, exploring the stone steps, etc. Lewis was extremely interested in the tulips blooming in the gardens, and at one point took off at a fast crawl to go explore them.

He zoomed across the grass and straight into the plants. Daddy had to go catch him before he trampled the whole garden and tried to eat the tulips.

He zoomed across the grass and straight into the plants. Daddy had to go catch him before he trampled the whole garden and tried to eat the tulips.

It was a very nice weekend despite the cold wet start. Too bad we had to leave mid-afternoon on Monday and couldn’t just stay there to enjoy the lovely weather!

 

 

 

Water Play

[Two posts today, since I already did the Photo Friday post. I’ve been saving these photos to post about our fun in the water. We are going away this weekend to enjoy some time on Lake Champlain, so I wanted to get this posted before I’m away from technology for a few days. I’m sure I’ll have plenty of new photos and things to write when we get back.]

We’ve been having some not-so-awesome weather this week. Very hot and humid, plus a lot of rain. All this means we haven’t been getting outside much. I’ve been managing to get us out for a walk still most mornings, but on Tuesday Lewis fell asleep before we made it out the door to walk, and it was too hot/sticky out to go later in the day. So later in the day we went out for some water play instead!

He kept trying to stick his face down in the bucket. "How do I drink this water?"

He kept trying to stick his face down in the bucket. “How do I drink this water?”

He played with the water a bit and put all his toys in it, then decided to crawl around for a while and explore the grass, watch cars go by, etc. He doesn’t like to crawl in the grass so he stayed on the walkway the whole time and I didn’t have to worry about him going too far away. After he explored for a while he eventually came back to the water to splash more and dump it all over the ground.

Bear Crawl! He doesn't like to crawl on his knees on the scratchy cement.

Bear Crawl! He doesn’t like to crawl on his knees on the scratchy cement.

Focused on something in the distance.

Focused on something in the distance.

We made it out to the library (for our last story hour session) on Wednesday, but then had rain in the afternoon. He was very excited about the rain. He wanted to stand at the open window watching/listening/smelling it for a while. He also wanted to go out in it. We went out with both of us having bare feet when it was just a light rain and walked around on the walkway, stepped in wet grass and walked through small puddles. We didn’t stay out too long though because it started raining harder. Mostly we just watched out the windows.

"This rain is so amazing!'

“This rain is so amazing!’

Today we had more “water play” with bath time. He always has a few toys in the bath and sucks on them a little or throws them over the side of his whale tub, but he has never gotten into really “playing” in the bathtub or splashing the water much or anything. He does like to bang his toys on things to make noise in his normal play, and today he tried to bang his rubber ducky in the bath, but got a big splash instead! This resulted in lots more fun splashing, and experimenting with his different toys to see how he could splash with each of them. It was fun watching him make these discoveries. Reminds me of how in my child development classes they were always talking about babies as “little scientists” who explore and experiment to learn about the world.

His water play also reminded me of another quote that I can’t seem to find. With both our outdoor play and his splashing in the tub he had a very serious, focused expression the entire time, with hardly a smile. But even though he was so serious looking, you could tell that he was obviously having fun and enjoying what he was doing. Somewhere I read a quote that is something along the lines of “happy babies don’t have to smile” or something like that. (I think maybe it was a quote by Magda Gerber, but I’ve tried Googling it and came up with nothing.) But basically the point of the quote is that sometimes we might see a baby with such a serious face and feel that they’re not happy or not having enough fun, and think that we need to stimulate them more or tickle them or do something silly to get them smiling and laughing, but if we just stop to observe them a bit we will see how happy and content they are in what they are doing and realize that they don’t need us always making them smile.

Of course, sometimes happy babies do smile too!

IMG_6235Since we’ve been cooped up inside more we’ve both started getting a bit bored and antsy (especially today since we didn’t get outside for even a few minutes.) It’s definitely important to be extra silly and playful and get some giggles going on some of the time so we don’t go crazy from the gloomy weather and being trapped inside.

Hopefully this weather clears up soon and we can get back to our fun outside play times.

 

Photo Friday

Gnawing on the avocado pit, since he was very interested while I was peeling and slicing the avocado for lunch.

Gnawing on the avocado pit, since he was very interested while I was peeling and slicing the avocado for lunch.

"Ooh I see a wiggly crawly thing!" (He found a pill bug but it crawled down in a crack before he could pick it up.

“Ooh I see a wiggly crawly thing!” (He found a pill bug but it crawled down in a crack before he could pick it up.)

Just chillin' and watching the world go by.

Just chillin’ and watching the world go by.

He was very interested in SYTYCD. He was even bopping his head around with the music on one of the dances.

He was very interested in SYTYCD. He was even bopping his head around with the music on one of the dances. Maybe we have a future dancer on our hands!

Wiped out after a busy day and a nice evening walk.

Wiped out after a busy day and a nice evening walk.

Sleep Update

I’m happy to say that Lewis is still doing great with his sleeping! I’m seriously amazed by him every day. After I put him in the crib each night and he falls asleep with no (or very little) crying I keep commenting to Chris what a wonderful amazing baby he is. We are also making progress with nap times. At first when I put him in for a nap he would get very upset, stand in his crib, and cry for however long it took me to come get him. I don’t let him cry more than 10-15 minutes at a time. I know he can relax and calm down in less time than that, so if he is still crying at that point he is either not ready to nap or just has got himself too worked up to be able to sleep.

I’ve been nursing him to sleep and putting him down asleep for naps still, but it’s starting to seem that he doesn’t actually want to nurse to sleep as much as he used to. At night times he will nurse but then start playing around instead of getting sleepy on the breast. He’s done this the past few nights and at first I thought it was a sign that he wasn’t tired enough for bed, but I decided since it was bed time and we had done our full bedtime routine I would put him in the crib and see how he handled it. Even though he hasn’t been dozing off at the breast, he goes into the crib for bedtime without complaint and plays around a bit but is asleep within 10-15 minutes in the crib.

Nap times I nurse him to sleep and carry him to the crib. Sometimes he continues to sleep, but twice now he has woken when put into the crib and then put himself back to sleep. Yesterday was a thunderstorm and it was very dark in the bedroom from the cloudy skies. When I brought him in for his afternoon nap he cried for a few minutes, quieted and relaxed for another few minutes, and was fast asleep within 10 minutes of having been put down.

He has still been falling asleep in his stroller for morning naps, but today we went for a shorter walk than usual and he was still awake (but tired) when we got him. I nursed him and he dozed off so we went in to the crib. He woke when I set him down and decided to sit in his crib instead of lying down. He didn’t cry when I left him although I heard some slight cries/complaining sounds for a few minutes. Then he spent about 15 minutes playing with his animals in the crib and making some of the funny sounds he likes to make before there was finally silence coming from the room.

IMG_6246I am so proud and so impressed that not only did he put himself to sleep for his nap, he also happily played by himself for nearly 20 minutes! When he was very little he would lay on his play mat and keep busy for 10-15 minutes but it has been a long time since he will willingly play on his own for more than 5 minutes. At the very least he needs to have me or Chris in sight while he is playing or he gets very agitated and starts trying to crawl through the apartment (sometimes crying, sometimes laughing) to try to find us. It is wonderful that he is learning to be alone with himself a little bit!

 

Baby Chores

Lewis is 8 1/2 months old, so I’ve decided it’s about time he starts earning his keep and doing some chores around here!

Not really, but I have been letting him “help” with a few things recently. I love the fact that he is always interested in what Mommy is doing, so finding ways to get him involved seems like a great way to help keep him engaged and also set the stage for the future when he will have more formal “chores” to do.

He has been “helping” me with the laundry for a long time now, since he is often in my arms when it is time to tend the laundry. We are lucky to have our own laundry machine in our apartment, but unluckily it is the World’s Worst Laundry Machine. It is a combined washer/dryer. All in one unit, not stacked. Which means I can have laundry washing or drying but not both. It is also TINY. One load in this machine is about 1/4-1/3 the size of a load that I can fit in a “normal” machine. This means I have laundry constantly going, so there are always opportunities for Lewis to observe and help with this task. We cloth diaper, so I do a load of diaper almost every day, plus one or two loads of regular laundry. Lewis helps by playing with the drier balls, opening and shutting the door, and playing with the wet laundry when I am fluffing it up before drying. He also helps me hang the diapers up to dry by pulling his cloth wipes off the rack each time I hang them.

IMG_5947He is also very curious about the dishwasher. We keep it shut all the time, and discourage him from playing with it when it is full of dirty dishes, but recently I have been involving him more with unloading the dishes. When the door is open he can easily pull himself up on it to stand and reach the silverware and plates in the bottom rack. He is very good about “sharing” and handing me things when I ask for them or hold my hand out, so I have been letting him help unload the silverware. He pulls it out one piece at a time, and then I hold my hand out and say “Can I have that fork?” or “Give that to Mama please. Thank you! You handed me the spoon,” or other similar things. It is only spoons, forks, and butter knives, so not good to play with, but safe enough for him to pick up and hand to me. Once the silverware is unloaded he is happy to stand there and play with the empty bottom rack while I finish unloading the rest.

I have also been involving him a bit more in his diaper changes. We use cloth wipes wetted with water, so after I wipe him (assuming it isn’t a poopy diaper) he sometimes likes to take the wipe and try to wipe himself. He has moved it towards his mouth once and I stopped him from trying to taste it, but mostly he just “wipes” himself and drops it or hands it back to me.

Obviously these little “chores” of his aren’t actually making things easier for me and in most cases make things take longer than they would otherwise. But, they only really add on a few minutes of time, they’re setting the stage for him helping more in the future, and they are great opportunities for quality interactions, so I think it is a win all around.

Do you involve your baby in helping with “chores” or have any other suggestions for ways that a baby can get involved with what Mommy is doing?